As I sat down to think about the goals I'd like to achieve in the coming year it occurred to me just how easy it is to get sidetracked from my priorities. As a Christian woman I know what they are. God has clearly laid them out for me in Titus 2: 3-5 - The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Why is it so easy to get sidetracked?
I really want to be a writer. I want to help out with finances, build my own sites and blogs, make a tiny little name for myself somewhere in the world. It is so easy to let that become the most important part of my day. But it should not be. Spending time reading the Bible and in prayer, helping my husband get his things together for work, kissing a boo boo and rocking a baby are far more important than any article or blog post I could ever write. Those are the things that build a home. Like it or not, we moms and wives set the tone of our homes and we can let everyone know exactly where they rank without a word.
It is also true in the small things. For example, when my phone rings I am compelled to answer it. I must know who is on the other end. If it is someone I know I must talk to them immediately. I am ashamed to say that my kids (and hubby) have been put second place to the phone more times than I can even count. I have been feeling convicted about this lately.
I have had to stop answering the phone every time it rings. If I am rocking Grumpy, having a conversation with my husband or playing cars with Bug the phone doesn't take priority. It's really hard. But Bug has started saying, "No, I didn't tell you to talk on the phone!", whenever he sees me approach it. That is not a good sign. So, I have starting utilizing the caller i.d. and returning calls when I'm too busy with my top priorities to get to it.
This was something I'd never really thought about until I read one of Elizabeth George's books (I apologize, I can't recall which one it was at the moment) where she tells a story about cooking a delicious meal for a new mother that attended her church. She had never met the woman, but was so pleased to share with her daughters the fact that she had gone to all of this trouble to help the new mother out. Then her girls asked what they were having for supper and she had to tell them it was macaroni with hot dogs...again. That hit home for me.
So, to sum up this novel of a post, maybe we should stop and ask ourselves from time to time, who is getting the best of us. Is it our husbands and our little ones or the unexpected visitor that shows up at the door. Do you show a pleasant face to the world while your "real" attitude at home is not so...pleasant? I know that I sure do. Why not make it a goal this year to give our best to our families and check our priorities every so often to make sure they are lined up with what God says they should be?